Episode 36: Trusting Children, Digging Under Behavior, & Getting the Pause with Mr. Chazz
/You know that moment where you realize you haven't heard your kids for a few minutes; where your house is suddenly suspiciously quiet?? And then you go and look for them and find them happily engaged in... redecorating your walls with markers, squeezing all the toothpaste out on the counter, climbing a bookcase (😱) or, (as happened once in my house) spreading shea butter all over themselves and the floor of their room.
Yup. It happens here too!
And in those moments it can be pretty hard to stay calm and not get lost in the flood of thoughts we have about our kids and ourselves, right? That's why it's critical that we as parents learn to pause, TRUST our kids that they aren't bad or naughty and seek to understand what's going on for our kids in those moments, that they have developmental drives and needs, and figure out how to help them meet those needs in ways that are also within our boundaries.
So, how can you learn to trust your children? How can you practice to pause for the moment and process what happened instead of yelling at your kid for writing on the wall? How can you figure out what underlying need their behavior is communicating?
In this episode, I invited my dear colleague the super fun Mr. Chazz to help us in digging under our children's behavior and learning to understand and trust them. He is a teacher, a mentor, and a motivational speaker and so I am thrilled to have him teach us the following:
How to Trust Our Children & Understand Their Underlying Needs
How to Help Them with Their (and our own!) Big Feelings
How to Take Responsibility for Our Thoughts & Feelings & Get The Pause
Assigning Positive Intent
The Power of Observation & Curiosity
How to Get the Pause
If you wish to learn more from Mr. Chazz, he is offering a 1-on-1 coaching at $20/month. Wow! You can find that on www.patreon.com/mrchazz. I will be joining him in his Patreon on the 21st of December to discuss Parenting as a Team. We will be digging into big questions and breaking it down into really actionable, doable steps.
Follow Mr. Chazz on Instagram and Facebook as well. And check out his podcast (I'll be a guest soon!) "Mr. Chazz's Leadership and Parenting Podcast".
And if you are looking for more balance in your life and in your parenting, join me in my free Facebook Group: Balanced Parenting Community. I hope to see you there!