Episode 20: How to Manage Differences Between You and Your Partner When it Comes to Parenting

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When you've already been in a conflicting conversation with your partner, there's an environment of criticism, blame, and defensiveness. In this episode, I talk about how to manage parenting differences between you and your partner.

Here's an overview of what I'll be discussing in this episode:

  • Start having more positive conversations around parenting.

  • Really working hard on your personal delivery when you're asking or requesting change.

  • Focus on modeling what you want to see.

I am also sharing my free Partners in Parenting workbook which you can download here:

And, if you’re ready to take the next step and get real support in finally feeling like you and your partner are a team, I’d love to invite you to check out my new course:

Partners in Parenting


Learn more


If you do have any questions or concerns at all about this episode, please don't hesitate to shoot me a message on instagram @laurafroyenphd. For shownotes and more episodes checkout www.laurafroyen.com/podcast

Episode 19: Your Health Matters

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In this episode, I welcome you my new guest Alison Coombs, a personal trainer and a Pelvic Health Specialist. We discuss about how to stay balanced when you feel grounded.

You'll also learn the importance of having a community that supports you. And understand that we don’t have to get to that rock bottom in order for us to realize that our health matters. 

DOWNLOAD THIS WEEK’S BALANCED BITE!

You can find links to all of Alison’s social media account, website, and upcoming free class below:

Website:

www.alisoncoombs.com

Social Media:

IG- www.instagram.com/alisonvcoombs

Sign up for Alison’s free class HERE!

Episode 18: How to move from Reactivity to Responsiveness

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In this episode, I sit down with Mariela Ortiz, a wellness coach for moms and their kids. We discuss the process of moving from being reactive to being responsive as a parent, what to do when you’re triggered, and some more tips on how to respond from your deeper goals and intentions for your child and for your relationship with them.

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You can find links to all of Mariela's social media accounts, website, and upcoming summit below:

Website:

www.marielaortiz.com

Social media:

IG- @marielaortiz.wellness

Facebook- marielaortiz.wellness

Sign up for Mariela’s summit HERE!

Episode 17: Three Tips for Parenting Conflict

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Have you ever had an argument with your other half in front of your kids? Are small conflicts disturbing the peace between you and your partner? Come and join me in this episode as I discuss three tips for parenting conflict.

I am also sharing my free Partners in Parenting workbook which you can download here:

This week’s balanced bite teaches you the three tips for parenting conflict. So be sure to download it here:

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Episode 16: Five Common Problem Solving Mistakes

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In this episode, I talk about the 5 common problem-solving mistakes parents make when confronting their kids about an unsolved problem and I also discuss 5 tips to make your problem-solving conversations more effective with your kids.

If you want more support in learning how to solve problems collaboratively I’m holding a workshop soon! You can get all the details by emailing me here: laura@laurafroyen.com

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This week’s balanced bite shows you the 5 tips to make your problem-solving conversations more effective with your kids.

Episode 15: Setting Effective Limits in Five Simple Steps

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In this episode I  walk you through the process of setting limits with compassion and respect. Its a simple process but not always easy to implement and so I give you some examples and pointers as well.

If you want more support in learning how to bring this type of parenting to life in your family, please join me in my new course:

Respectful Parenting 101. 

Learn more!


Episode 14: Getting on the Same Page as Parents (feat. my husband Dan Lynch)

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In this episode I sat down with my amazing husband Dan to answer YOUR burning questions about getting on the same page as parents. We discussed everything from how he realized that he couldn't just parent from instinct anymore, his favorite ways to learn about parenting (Surprise! It's not from me!), how we navigate parenting mistakes and disagreements, and how he opened up to the idea of seeking out support and therapy.

We cover a lot of ground, come listen in!

Don't forget to sign up for this week's webinar HERE!

The questions that guided this episode were submitted by folks in my Balanced Parenting Community on Facebook.

If hearing us talk about our conversations about goals, core values, and priorities sounded nice and you’re thinking you’d like to have a similar conversation with your partner, then I have just the tool for you! And it’s free!

WORKBOOK: Partners in Parenting


Resources pertinent to this episode:

Gottman’s book The Heart of Parenting (affiliate link)

Episode 13: Getting to the Root Cause of Misbehavior & Helping Kids Get on a Different Path

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In this episode I sit down with my colleague and kindred spirit Marlene Spence, parent educator and child behavior strategist. We discuss how to figure out what a child's behavior is communicating to you and then how to support them in meeting your expectations. We also discuss what positive reinforcement REALLY means, and how to use it in a way that doesn't undermine your respectful parenting goals. 

Wondering what’s next?

Well, if you are ready to take the next step in your respectful parenting journey, if you’re wanting to get super clear on what exactly positive or peaceful parenting is and how it can change your family for the better; I want to invite you to my free training happening next week.

 
sign up here!

You can find links to all of Marlene's social media accounts, websites, and upcoming workshops below:

Websites:
www.marlenespence.com

www.Rewardum.com (Her amazing modular, restickable schedule system!)

Socials:

IG- @cornerstonefs
IG- @rewardums
And register for her workshops that she mentioned! CLICK HERE!

Episode 12: Five Secrets for Raising Connected & Cooperative Teens

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In this episode I sit down with my colleague Michael Arterberry who works with teens helping them make sense of their lived experiences and find their purpose. He shares his wisdom gained from his own healing experience, his experience as a father of two teens, and years of working with teens from all backgrounds. Specifically you will find tips for how to maintain connection with your child through the teen years and how to find balance between letting them have autonomy and keeping them safe. 

Ready to take action? I put the main takeaways from this episode in a handy cheat sheet you can grab here:

Five Secrets for Raising Connected and Cooperative Teens

Episode 11: Why Your Cup Is Never Full & How to Make It Overflow

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We hear ALL THE TIME that you can't pour from an empty cup, right??

And it's true, you must put your own oxygen mask on first and meeting your own needs for rest, grace, empathy will allow you to show up in your relationships with your partners and children with more presence, authenticity, and joy. But...

Tell me if this resonates:

  • It's like the cup that you are supposed to be filling is bottomless.

  • No matter how much yoga, breathing, or journaling you do, you're always pouring it back out into your kids and partner.

  • You feel drained, like everyone needs you and they are sucking you dry (sometimes literally for our breast/chest feeding parents!).

  •  There is just never enough of YOU to go around.

Well, I have a secret to share with you in this episode that will flip this on it's head and make sure that you NEVER have to feel drained in this way again. And, no, I'm not adding more self-care to your to-do list.

In fact, you don't have to DO anything!

In this episode I'm going to be sharing one of the most powerful mindset shifts you can make as a parent:

WHY your cup never feels full

How your kids (and all humans) respond to scarcity and how this applies to mindful, present parenting.

How to shift out of a scarcity mindset in your parenting and how to embrace ABUNDANCE.

My Champagne Glass Tower approach to parenting with compassion and connection.

And then I walk you through STEP-BY-STEP on HOW to shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset.

Ready for the next step?

Now, for this to really take effect you MUST take action. Changing your mindset takes practice and time and commitment. To make this easier I outlined the FIVE STEP PROCESS FOR SHIFTING TO AN ABUNDANCE MINDSET in this week’s Balanced Bite:


JOIN ME IN RESPECTFUL PARENTING 101!

AND if you're ready to take your parenting to the next level, join me in Respectful Parenting 101 with discount code FATHERSDAY2020 and receive 20% off.

CLICK HERE TO CHECK IT OUT!

Episode 10: Finding a Balanced Approach to Homeschool in the Midst of Uncertainty

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In this episode of The Balanced Parent Jen Lumanlan of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast joins me to walk us through some of the things to consider as we make decisions about how to educate our children in the midst of the uncertainty caused by this global health crisis. 

We explore what school might look like in the fall, how to let your child lead their learning, and how to stay balanced if your child does end of learning at home with you in the fall. 

Jen Lumanlan holds an M.S. in Psychology (Child Development) and an M.Ed., and hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast which is a reference guide for parents of toddlers and preschoolers based on scientific researcher and the principles of respectful parenting.  In each issue she examines a topic related to parenting and child development from all sides to help parents understand how to make decisions about raising their children.  She lives in California with her husband and daughter.


The Confident Homeschooler Course

Ready for the next step??

Jen and I collaborated to bring you a great infographic on how you can consciously and respectfully encourage a life long love of reading! You can get that here!


Episode 9: Postpartum: Go from Surviving to Thriving

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🌟 We are doing our first ever book giveaway!!🌟

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In this episode I sit down with Tilda Timmers, author of the honest and helpful book: This is Postpartum. After overcoming intense Postpartum Depression herself Tilda was inspired to go back to school, become a therapist specializing in the transition to motherhood and is here to share her wisdom on how thrive in your postpartum period anytime, but especially during a pandemic. She shares specific tools and practices AND has something to say to partners and those who care for and about parents who have recently given birth.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

 https://www.thelily.com/5-pieces-of-advice-to-help-manage-postpartum-depression-during-coronavirus/  

You can find her online and on social media here:

www.instagram.com/thisispostpartum
www.instagram.com/geenrozewolk
www.froufroubegeleiding.nl

🌟Book Giveaway Details!🌟

If you’d like chance to win a copy of the book, for yourself or to give to a friend who you know needs it, here is what you need to do:

  1. Follow ME (if you aren’t already!) AND Tilda on Instagram

  2. Share this episode of The Balanced Parent on Social media (tag both of us so we know you did it!)

  3. Comment on the giveaway post on my Instagram page (look for the photo below) with 3-5 EMOJIS that capture the essence of your transition to parenthood.

  4. Tag a friend on that post.

Post to look for:


Episode 8: Returning to Balance When You're Overwhelmed

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In this episode I welcome my first guest, Anna Seewald of the Authentic Parenting Podcast. Anna Seewald, M.Ed is a Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author and Host of The Authentic Parenting Podcast. With a background in psychology and education, having worked with children for 18 years, today she helps conscious moms and dads to become calm and connected to themselves and their children through trauma-informed education. She believes in helping children by helping parents. She has a private practice that specializes in parent education, where she provides one-on-one parent coaching, parenting, court ordered, and co-parenting classes. 

 www.authenticparenting.com 


Listen in as we discuss how to manage stress and return to balance when you are overwhelmed. While we do discuss a bit about the specific circumstances of the pandemic and being at home with our families, we ALL know that overwhelm is nothing new for parents, right? So this episode has so many golden nuggets and take action tips! 

Ready for the next step?

Download this week’s Balanced Bite for 5 easy to implement practices that will help you ditch the overwhelm for good!

Bonus Episode! Finding a Balanced Approach to Screen Time

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In this episode I share how my family approaches screen time in a way that sets children up to have a healthy, balanced relationship with screen media and technology. Plus I give tips for how to work together as a family to set technology intentions and goals, how to bring an abundance mindset vs scarcity to screen time, and how to help your kids stop asking for more screen time constantly. Enjoy and let me know if you have questions! Message me on Facebook or Instagram!

Learn more about DOR here!

Episode 7: The Truth about Triggers, Trauma, and Unconditional Love

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In this episode we discuss the origin of our triggers, as both parents and partners: How they come to be, what they mean about us and out inner world and narrative, why they so often emerge in our most significant relationships, and how we can respond consciously to the child in front of us by healing the hurting child within us. I give you FIVE strategies that you can start putting into practice right now, this very minute, so that you can finally feel more grounded and centered in your relationships.

The information in this episode is at the very heart of balanced and conscious parenting, you won't want to miss it!


If you want a easy print out of the Five Practices For Healing Your Triggers, download this week’s Balanced Bite!


Episode 6: The Power of Acceptance

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In this episode we explore the power that acceptance can bring to our lives.

You may have heard the famous saying by Carl Jung: "What we resist, persists." but what does that mean for parents in our every day lives, or what about during times that are legitimately hard?

In this episode you will learn what acceptance is, what it is NOT, and how to apply it to the pieces of your life where you are stuck in "should" and are suffering as a result.

I also read a powerful poem by psychologist Steven Taylor, which you can read here.

If that poem speaks to you, I highly recommend that you record yourself reading it and then listen to it as a form of meditation or affirmation. Listening to these new ways of thinking spoken aloud in your own voice can help you in the process of re-scripting your automatic thinking and default scripts.

Want more? Check out this week’s Balanced Bite, where I share weekly take home messages and real life examples. In this one I share four common family scenarios that can be smoothed and soothed with acceptance:




Episode 5: How to Stay Calm As a Parent

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In this episode I share with you how to avoid losing your patience with your kids. I give you FIVE of my best strategies that all parents looking to be more respectful, conscious and connected in their parenting are going to want to start putting in to practice today.

In fact, these practices aren't just applicable to parenting, they apply to all relationships where you are seeking to respond rather than react! 

  1. Set the limit early

  2. Practice the pause

  3. Offer yourself grace

  4. Prioritize essential self-care

  5. Heal your triggers

Get your hands on this week’s Balanced Bite:

The five keys to being able to stay calm as a parent:

Episode 4: Managing Parenting Triggers During Stressful Times

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In this episode of The Balanced Parent we discuss the science behind why it is so much harder to manage your triggers when you are experiencing stressful circumstances, like a global pandemic (thanks Coronavirus...), and I give you tools and tips for how to stay calm and parent from a place of compassion.

Get your copy of the Yelling Recovery Workbook here:

http://www.laurafroyen.com/yellingworkbook

Download a free Self-Compassion for Imperfect Families Meditation here:

https://www.laurafroyen.com/compassion

Other resources mentioned:

Dr. Kristen Neff's website www.self-compasssion.org

Episode 3: Setting Boundaries with Loved Ones

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Learn to set healthy boundaries that allow you to have authentic, connected relationships with the adults in your life!

In this episode, which was recorded live, you'll learn how to set two kinds of boundaries that are crucial to maintaining healthy, authentic relationships with the adults in your lives. Whether you have a narcissistic father, a mother-in-law that blows past every boundary you've ever set, or a friends or family that affect you in a negative way, you can set boundaries, with them and with yourself, that help you navigate these relationships with compassion and respect for everyone involved.

Topics Covered:

Setting external boundaries: These are the boundaries you set with others

Setting internal boundaries: These are the boundaries you set with yourself to regulate how others’ behavior affects you, your behavior, and your emotional well-being.

Learning to adjust your expectations to be more reasonable, and mourn the relationship you imagined that might not be possible.

The importance of tapping into compassion and considering the other’s perspective.

Exploring when to set firm boundaries that have the potential to result in a cut-off with family members.

Specific examples covered: Interactions with children, mother-in-law relationships, excessive gift giving, racism, alcohol use.

I would love to have you join me in my Balanced Parenting Community on Facebook where you can get support in setting these kinds of loving, authentic boundaries.